How To Give Her Great Oral Sex

How To Give Her Great Oral Sex

Great oral sex for her is more than just diving down there, licking and sucking like it’s a lollypop and hoping she’ll orgasm.

Great oral sex is as much about using your mouth to communicate as it is to provide pleasure.

Listen & Learn

Just like kissing, regular intercourse and masturbation, everyone is different and you must be willing to learn what your partner likes – whether you are a beginner or feel you are already a master muff-diver.

The best way to learn is to talk and to listen.

  • Before you start you may want to talk about how she’s feeling and any past experiences – good or bad?
  • During oral sex you need to check that what you’re doing is ok.  Does she like that? Faster or Slower? Hard or gentle? Flick or suck? Listen to her moans and how she reacts when you try different things.
  • Afterwards, talk again about what she enjoyed and what really got her hot.

Compliments

Female genitals have long been stigmatized and many women are traumatized by this, with rates of Cosmetic Gynaecology on the rise. Your partner may be concerned about the appearance, smell or taste, especially if this is new to her.

If you find yourself in this situation, remind her how much you want to be there – there is nothing sexier than compliments.  Tell her how good she tastes or sweet her scent is, and reassure her with some eye contact to build a sense of intimacy.  It’s important that there is mutual enjoyment from oral sex and she will love to see the pleasure in your eyes while you are eating her out.

Where to Focus and What to Do?

TOP TIP – whatever you do, do not dive straight down there and just lick for hours.

Start by kissing and stroking over her panties and up her inner thighs to get her going. Then when you remove her panties things get really hot.

do not dive straight down there and just lick for hours. 

This is where your expert listening skills from earlier come in to play.

  • Clitoris – Some women like their clitoris to be the main focus. Start slow and steady, licking and sucking or gently blowing and biting.
  • Labia – Some women enjoy having their labia spread, the sensations of licking and nibbling along the folds and/or the exposure of the vaginal opening.
  • Vaginal Opening – Some women enjoy the opening to be stimulated during oral sex too. Try licking around the edge, or gently inserting your tongue.

Notice we say “some women” in each of these sentences? Some women will only like one of these, some will like them all.

If you are comfortable, ask her to show you what she does with her hands.  This will give you a good idea of what parts she likes to touch and how. Take note (mentally – not with a pen and paper!) of the speed and intensity.  You can gradually join in and mimic what you watched, driving you both over the edge.

Mix It Up

Oral Sex was, for a long time, considered to be foreplay but really it’s so much more than that. It can be before, during or after sex or it can be the main event. It can be a quickie, a teaser for later, or a long and slow interaction.

Just your Mouth?

I can almost hear the silent confusion at this statement but seriously, should oral sex be confined to using your mouth? As tantalising as your lips and tongue are, using your hands, a finger or sex toy can take your oral sex fun to a whole new dimension.

Your hands can be an amazing accessory during oral sex.  You can stroke not only their genitals but take the opportunity to touch the rest of their body too.  With your partners consent you can grab, stroke, pinch or massage the buttocks, thighs, stomach or breasts, while you enjoy your meal. Use a finger, or more, for internal stimulation or pop open your toy box.

Which Sex Toys During Oral Sex?

There are some amazing sex toys that can be used during oral sex, for internal or external stimulation.  An air-pulse vibrator on the clitoris, like the Satisfyer or Womanizer, while you concentrate on other areas, a small bullet for slight internal poking or even a g-spot stimulator while you suck the clit.  If you suffer from a dry mouth then you could add in some flavored lubricant to keep things wet, or incorpate some heating or cooling lube for different sensations.  The possibilities are endless.

The biggest tip of all is to relax and enjoy.  Oral sex should be as enjoyable for the giver as the receiver.

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