What is Oral Sex?
March is Oral Sex month so we are kicking off with a back to basics guide – What is Oral Sex?
Oral Sex refers to the action of using your mouth, lips or tongue to stimulate your partner’s genitals or anus.
- Fellatio is the oral stimulation of the penis
- Cunnilingus is the oral stimulation of the vagina
- Oral stimulation of the anus is anilingus.
More common terms are going down, rimming, blow-jobs, deep-throat or 3rd base.
Can I get HIV or STIs from Oral Sex?
Other infections and viruses that are found in faeces (poop) can be passed on through anilingus including hepatitis A and E.coli.
Top Tips to Avoid Infections
- Do not brush your teeth immediately before as you may make your mouth and gums bleed.
- Using a condom or a dental dam helps to protect you from STIs.
- If you are having oral sex during your or your partners period, using a dam is even more advisable because menstrual blood can carry bacteria and viruses just like other blood.
- If you are performing cunnilingus on a woman, don’t ever move from the anus to the vagina as this can transfer bacteria and cause infection.
- Avoid oral sex if either of you has sores around your mouth, genitals or anus, or and cuts, bleeding or infection in your throat or mouth.
Should I Have Oral Sex?
Deciding whether to participate in oral is a very personal choice. Only you and your partner can know if you are ready to experiment at this stage. Think about whether it feels right, and whether you are both comfortable with the decision.
Many people enjoy oral as part of their sex life but not everybody likes it or chooses to do it. Different people like to give or receive it in different ways. There are a whole variety of ways to lick, suck and stimulate someone. You may decide not to have oral sex at all, or you may enjoy experimenting with your partner to find out what gives you both pleasure.
Talking to your partner about protection before you start will help make things easier. This may feel embarrassing but taking responsibility for protecting yourself and your partner is an important part of having sex. If you find it too awkward to talk about then you may not be ready to have oral sex just yet.
You should never give or receive oral sex just because you feel forced into it. Don’t be pressured into any sex act by comments like “it doesn’t mean we’ve had real sex – you’ll still be a virgin”, or “if you don’t want sex at least go down on me”, or “it’s not as risky as having intercourse”. If one of you isn’t comfortable with the decision it can ruin the whole experience. Oral sex should be fun for both of you.