Why You Should Never Fake An Orgasm

Have you ever faked an orgasm?  If the answer is Yes, then you are most definitely not alone.  A recent survey by LELO reported that over 50% of women have at some time faked an orgasm.  Not just women, but 25% of men admitted to it too.

Over 50% of women have at some time faked an orgasm.

The reasons were varied but the most common ones were:

• To please my partner. He/she wouldn’t listen/understand if I tried to explain that I didn’t or couldn’t.
• Boredom, just to get it over with.
• Faking is a turn-on … (this one really confused me!)

But here’s why you shouldn’t fake it, and if you are then why should stop.

Why are you faking an orgasm?

We are constantly talking about how important it is to improve communication in relationships . To be more aware of, and in control of our bodies and sexual desires, and increase intimacy and our love for ourselves.

If you’ve faked an orgasm you’re actually telling yourself that you are not worthy or deserving of orgasms with your partner, even if you do climax alone.  This can become a viscous cycle and can psychologically prevent you from achieving the real thing.

Now let’s be clear – sex without an orgasm on occasion is not a bad thing (but most of us would like at least one).

However, if you’re faking it to please your partner and make them feel worthy then you may grow to resent them and that’s not fair.  Sex is a two (or more) person activity and every player deserves their turn.

Technique troubles

Think of this  – every time you have faked your orgasm you’re telling your partner that what they just did was amazing and they will keep on doing it, thinking they are the best and that you LOVE it!

This should be about your pleasure not their ego.  Yes, they may have a dented self-esteem when you tell them you’ve been faking it and don’t actually get off on what they’ve been doing but if you handle it in the right way it can lead to fun times.  Think of the exploration and excitement ahead as you try new things together and experience new sensations.

Yes – you can orgasm!

If you are one of those women who think you can’t orgasm then let me tell you, you CAN.

We all know that it may be much harder for some ladies to climax than others. After all, your lady bits are filled with different sensitive areas and everyone likes something a little bit different, but unless you have a medical condition your body is most definitely capable of orgasm.

Medical research has shown that 5-6 weeks of practice, either solo or with your partner, will help you harness your erogenous zones and achieve that big O.  Let’s face it there’s worse ways to spend your time.

Use online resources for ideas, talk a lot about everything, be honest about what you enjoy and don’t and if your partner isn’t comfortable talking about it then consider therapy.

Remember this is your body and your orgasm!