Beginners Guide to Blindfolding
While blindfolding is a common, easy-to-enact fantasy, it can also cause anxiety for the partner being blindfolded. As with all things kinky, it’s not something you should rush into. Our Beginners Guide to Blindfolding will help you prepare and build trust so your blindfolding can become an intensely erotic and blissfully vulnerable experience.
There’s a difference between helping your partner do something they’re intrigued by but nervous about, and pushing them to do something they’re not ready for.
Talk to your partner about how they feel about blindfolding and any concerns that they may have. Reassure your partner that they don’t have to do anything they don’t want to do, and always respect their limits and safe words.
Choose the Perfect Blindfold
As with all things kinky, blindfolds come in all shapes, sizes, colors and textures. With a little research you and your partner are guaranteed to find the perfect blindfold for your first time.
Fit is one of the most important qualities to consider when you’re choosing a blindfold. It should fit securely enough over your partner’s eyes that it doesn’t slip down, but not so tight that it causes discomfort. You can even get an adjustable one so you can customize it to your or your partner’s body.
Next, consider aesthetics. Leather or other “classic” BDSM materials might be a little strict or intimidating for a first timer. If your partner would like a blindfold with a more inviting look you could even try a silky sash; just make sure the texture isn’t too slippery.
On the other hand, your partner might actually feel comforted by a blindfold that feels extra-firm, durable and secure. In that case, a leather blindfold with foam padding is a great choice.
(Pro tip: if your partner has long hair, wearing it up will make for an easier blindfold fitting.)
Being blindfolded can be psychologically intense, and if your partner is anxious, they will definitely benefit from a “test run.”
While your partner is blindfolded, do an intimate activity together like cuddling or making out. Let them get used to the sensation of being blindfolded without the added intensity of sex or a BDSM scene.
Once the blindfold is off, ask them about their experience. Talk about the different sensations that seemed heightened as well as the emotions they felt or anxious thoughts they had.
From this conversation, you can both develop a more detailed plan for what you will and won’t do during blindfolded sex or a BDSM scene.
With trust, patience and communication, you can help your partner get past any anxiety about blindfolding and share an intimate, erotic experience that will take your sex life to the next level.