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Beginners Guide to Kegel Balls

Beginners Guide to Kegel Balls

Kegel balls, also known as Orgasm Balls, Geisha Balls or Ben Wa Balls, are small, weighted marble-sized balls, available in a variety of weights and sizes but what do they do and how do you use them? Our beginners guide to Kegel Balls tells all …

What are Kegel Balls for?

These have been used for centuries to help strengthen vaginal and pelvic floor muscles.  The small weighted balls are designed to help you contract and release different pelvic muscles with ease.  But Kegel balls do far more than just exercise your pelvic floor. They are now better known for enhancing sexual pleasure.  And thanks to popular movies and novels, such as 50 Shades, Kegel balls have surged in popularity as people begin to explore their many uses.

Who can Use Kegel balls?

Kegel balls are generally safe for most women, but as with any “exercise”, there are some risks including; overuse, tearing, pain or discomfort.

You should also check in with your doctor before using them if you:

  • are pregnant or recently gave birth
  • have existing pelvic pain or infection
  • are recovering from gynaecological surgery
  • have an intrauterine device (IUD)
  • use a menstrual cup

How to Insert Kegel Balls

To get your Kegel Balls ready you should first wash your hands with antibacterial soap, then wash your Kegel balls with warm water and antibacterial soap, before drying them with a clean towel.

Apply a generous amount of personal lubricant to your vaginal opening and on the balls, so they are easier to inert.

Once you’re lubed up, lie down in a comfortable position and slowly insert the first ball, followed by the second.  If your balls have a retrieval loop or string, make sure to leave that hanging outside of your vagina.

Tighten your pelvic floor muscles as you stand up, to hold your kegel balls inside you.  The balls should feel secure inside your vaginal canal.  If they feel like they’re going to fall out, or the ball is visible outside of your opening then they may be too heavy for you.  Try gently pushing them deeper inside to see if that makes it easier.

The sensations from wearing Kegel balls varies from person to person but is usually described as a subtle tingling sensation.  This can be intensified with movement, like walking, bending, stretching or sitting and standing.

What to do once they’re in?

What you do after you insert your Kegel balls depends on why you’re using them.  If you want to strengthen your pelvic floor, targeted exercises will help you identify and tone your muscles.  If you want to experiment, you’ll focus less on exercise and more on individual sexploration.

Pelvic exercise only

Weighted Kegel balls can enhance you pelvic floor exercises by adding in a challenge.

If you want to add Kegel balls to your regular pelvic floor routine, then start by inserting them as above.  Once they are securely in place, tighten your pelvic floor muscles as if you are lifting and squeezing the balls.  Try to hold the contraction for around 5 seconds and then relax.  Repeat this 5 times or more to complete one set and aim to complete up to three sets per day if you can.

For solo sexual pleasure

Kegel balls are not designed to be used in the same way as traditional sex toys.  Although moving them in and out of your vagina is an option, and some people do find this very pleasurable, the more intense stimulation occurs when you leave them inside.

As you masturbate, they will enhance the sensation of whatever you’re doing, whether that’s rubbing your clitoris or exploring your other erogenous zones.

You can even incorporate your favorite vibrator. As you squeeze the kegel balls inside, rub your vibrator on your clitoris and around your vaginal opening.

For partner play

Kegel balls can be a great way to increase your sensitivity during vaginal sex.

Kegel balls are silent and discreet so you can insert them before you head out on a date or make insertion the first part of an intense round of foreplay. The longer the balls are in, the more aroused you’ll be when it’s time for the main event.

Just make sure to pull the balls out before your partner — or another toy — slides in.

TIP:  If you’re comfortable using Kegel balls on your own, you can heat things up with your partner by leaving them in during vaginal penetration. Your partner’s penis or dildo will move the balls around, creating intense sensations for you. Keep the thrusts slow and steady to help prevent discomfort.

Kegel balls can also make anal sex more pleasurable. Anal penetration can push the balls against your G-spot, sending intense sensations throughout your body.  Although it may be tempting, you should never insert Kegel balls into your anus. They aren’t made for this purpose and could cause discomfort. They’re also more likely to get stuck in this location.

How to Remove them

You can leave Kegel balls in for 4-6 hours, depending on the balls used and your individual body.

If your Kegel balls have a removal string or loop, you simply need to lay in a comfortable position, apply more lube if required and slowly pull on the retrieval string until they slide out.

If you are more experienced and your balls are separated, you should position yourself into a comfortable squat and squeeze your vaginal muscles to push them out.

Don’t panic if the balls don’t come out right away, try to remain calm. You may be able to coax them out by adding more lube. You can also cough, move around, or even jump up and down to help your muscles contract and release.

How to Clean and Store them

Keeping your Kegel balls clean is crucial. If they aren’t cleaned and stored correctly, they can introduce bacteria into your vagina that could lead to infection.

After you remove your Kegel balls, you should wash them thoroughly with antibacterial soap and warm water.  Rinse well and pat them dry with a clean towel.  We always recommend that you make sure that they are completely dry before storing them in their own pouch or case.

Are there any risks?

Although Kegel balls are generally considered safe to use, there are few things you should keep in mind.

You should only squeeze for about 5 seconds at a time, with breaks of at least 5 seconds between. Squeezing for too long or without a break could overexert your vaginal muscles and cause a temporary strain.

You shouldn’t keep in your Kegel balls in for more than four to six hours at a time. Any longer and you may begin to overexert your pelvic floor muscles.

You should also clean your Kegel balls before and after every use. Using contaminated Kegel balls can result in infection.

Discontinue use and see your doctor if you begin to experience:

  • severe pain or discomfort
  • unusual discharge
  • unusual odor

How to Choose the Correct Kegel Balls

If you’re new to Kegel balls, start with a lightweight ABS plastic or silicone set and make sure the balls are attached and have a removal string.

Although some sets contain three or more, two is the standard. You should always start with two and increase or decrease the number as you become more familiar with the practice.

Once you’re comfortable, you can take things to the next level by swapping:

  • larger balls for smaller balls
  • lighter materials, like plastic or silicone, for something heavier, like metal or glass
  • connected sets for individual balls

Try switching up one element — like size — to start. You can continue to add new elements in as you progress in you practice.


  1. Nonnymous. on May 3, 2021 at 11:28 pm

    Hi great article. I’m considering buying some for my wife, after a few kids, she’s not as she used to be ‘downstairs’. So, I’d like to ask how I should go about asking if she’d be happy trying some, without it sounding like I’m unhappy with her of course, and how long it would normally take to feel some sort of results?

    • Off To The Bedroom on May 3, 2021 at 11:49 pm

      Thanks for you feedback on the article. Regarding your wife, we always say communication is key and we would definitely suggest you bring it up with her before buying some. I would start by establishing if this is something that troubles her as much as you, perhaps share the article with her and gage her reaction and then allow the conversation to progress from there. You need to be mindful that this is her body you are talking about and she has the right to decide.
      If she does go along with it, most people report some difference within 2-4 weeks of regular use. Good luck.

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